Challenge of fatherlessness

“Violent crime, drug and alcohol abuse, teen pregnancy and suicide all relate more to fatherlessness than any other single factor.” (S. Baskerville, Professor Ph.D. Howard University)

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Statistics by the US Department of Health show that

63% of youth suicides
90% of all homeless and runaway children
85% of all children who show behavioural disorders
80% of rapists with anger problems
71% of all high school dropouts
75% of adolescent patients in chemical abuse centres
85% of youths in prison
71% of pregnant teenagers
63% of youth suicides

are from fatherless homes.

The South African Institute of Race Relations said in 2010 only 37% of children were living under the same roof as their fathers.

Fatherlessness means one of two things – the father is physically absent e.g. dead or has left the family (where the above statistic refers to) or the father is actually physically there, but not actively involved in the child’s development and does not fulfil the roles of a father.

The consequences of fatherlessness

Children who grow up without a father suffer emotionally, intellectually, socially and in terms of behaviour. Girls, in particular, suffer from low self-esteem, show higher levels of risky sexual behaviour, and have more difficulties forming and maintaining stable relationships. They are also more likely to fall pregnant at an early age and out of wedlock, marry at an early age or get divorced. Boys who grow up without a father are more likely to engage in over-compensatory masculine behaviour later on in life.

The wounds of an absent father are greatly displayed in a person’s insecurities. Signs for these insecurities are the desire to proof yourself, self-justification, seeking security in material possessions, pleasing people, indulgence or addictions, condemnatory or paternalistic behaviour, self-pity, indiscipline, not being teachable, jealousy, racism and floating in life.

In trying to cover up these insecurities people tend to develop behavioural problems, where violence and other destructive habits become life patterns for themselves and others.

Fatherlessness is a known problem, but solutions to not only address the symptoms but actually break the cycle of fatherlessness and affect the source of all the above-mentioned problems have been rare to non-existing.

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